Thursday, 5 September 2013

SHAME SHAME SHAME

After 13 exciting and wonderful years in an industry that has given me confidence, creative expression, financial stability, the opportunity to travel and many life long friendships the gay porn world today has become a total disappointment.

Last year I said yes to a request by Treasure Island Media, the largest and most well know bareback studio, to shoot 2 scenes for them. One in London and the other in California. As through out my career  I've been a strong advocate of safe sex I agreed to it under the terms that the duo scene would be oral only and I would do a second jack off solo scene. All was agreed and the scenes were in the can.
At this point I need to add that most mainstream gay porn companies are now shooting bareback content. In the early 80's after the Aids epidemic and discovery of the virus and how it was transmitted the gay porn world reacted by shooting condom only safe sex. It seems that today in 2013 the studios have decided to start relaxing the noose on condom use by shooting more bareback content due to it's financial gain and due to the growing attitudes that its ok if you get infected you can still have a normal life the medication can control everything.

The backlash that followed the release of my 2 scenes for Treasure Island took me by surprise. On all the various blogs and websites the negative and hateful comments just kept pouring in. I had to break my silence and explain myself via thesword.com that seem to be the epicenter of the whole discussion.
Well just like everything in porn the brawl lasted a mere few weeks and then was forgotten.....almost.

At the beginning of this year I received the Best Porn Star award at the Cybersockets voted on by the fans. With this in mind I returned to the U.S. with a fresh and eager attitude only to discover that not one of the many many studios I've collaborated with wanted to shoot me. This was a surprise and confusing to me but ultimately i knew the reason why. Which brings me to the situation in the industry today. In one word Chaos. Chaos in terms of the attitudes, the way people are cast, the standards that are followed and the greed and selfishness amongst the studio owners. In my situation no one wants to cast me because they believe i only do bareback now which means I'm likely HIV+ and that would be putting their filming at risk. Studios like MEN. com would prefer to use straight gay for pay actors who probably have never been tested rather than passionate gay performers who get tested regularly.
Unless there is a gold standard followed by the whole industry where every single performer is tested regularly before a shoot how can a studio know and decide on a models situation and whether he is suitable and safe. There is an ignorance and hypocrisy amongst studio directors today that is bringing the whole industry down and I only hope things will change very soon.

As for my situation I always knew the time would come when I would slowly have to say farewell and in no means is that sad. Im happy to have made it through these 13 years happy, healthy, sane and still safe. And much wiser.

When I began writing this blog in 2006 with the utmost enthusiasm it was my goal to let the fans and readers into my life and my adventures in porn. I hope you have discovered something of interest and had a few "happy" moments along the way.

50 comments:

Victoria Malone said...

Hey Dean! I am so sorry that that was your experience :( I can't imagine how you feel. It's been quite the ride and I hope you are at peace with whatever ultimately comes of this situation. Sounds like you are happy and healthy whatever the case may be. Thank you for writing this and shedding some light on a huge downfall of the current industry.

ps. You are the best and have been for years and always will be in my mind ;)

artpurses said...

Thank you Dean! you are beloved and have more options than may seem apparent at this time..
love,William in Ft. Lauderdale

Anonymous said...

Treasure Island clearly states in both vids that u were working with them under the condition that u would only practice safe sex. Are studios so stupid that they can't do a little research?

mary gresham said...

Dean, quite honestly, until I read the Sword's tweet about your blog, I didn't know who you were. As for you retiring, I really don't blame you at all. I've seen some of the stuff that has been going on lately and frankly, I'm getting frustrated with it. I have many people in the industry that I consider close friends, so I hear some of the behind the scenes stuff and it is not at all good.
I wish you the best of luck in all that you do from this time forward. Have a safe, happy and fun life!

USColdplayfan said...

I am so sorry to hear you are leaving. I am glad you are leaving the business happy and healthy and on your own terms. I pray that you find happiness in other areas (like music -- I still blast Closer to You on my ipod) and still make the occasional appearance every once in a while. I would love to meet you one day.

Delylah Blush said...

Inspirational I know that the industry is very sneaky and tgats why I choose to pronote my self

Delylah Blush said...

Inspirational I know that the industry is very sneaky and tgats why I choose to pronote my self

Delylah Blush said...

Inspirational I know that the industry is very sneaky and tgats why I choose to pronote my self

Delylah Blush said...

Inspirational I know that the industry is very sneaky and tgats why I choose to pronote my self

Delylah Blush said...

Inspirational I know that the industry is very sneaky and tgats why I choose to pronote my self

Delylah Blush said...

Inspirational I know that the industry is very sneaky and tgats why I choose to pronote my self

John said...
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John said...

where's your other TIM scene? Only one is on their site.

Ludoviko de Kairo said...

You're a gentleman, in and out of bed. Always in my crotch.

DLS said...

So what will you be doing now that you've quit porn? I can image the world of adult entertainment right now is shaky; more studios are switching to BB-sex and the variety is completely lacking. So I can imagine that it's not a difficult decision you've made. Good luck with your future plans

Russ Benjamin said...

Dean! Thank you for your 13 years of amazing performances, inspiration, and j/o fantasies. I must admit to being a fan of BB scenes in porn. But I would say that your body, your face, your masculinity, your cock, your attitude, your skill, and your versatility will be missed. How about a personal test drive someday? Awoo-oo-oo-oo-oo! (You can find me in Columbus, Ohio.)

Anonymous said...

"I filmed a "cock sucking" scene with Dean, and things went a bit more into ass/fist/cock-play. Even safe-sex advocates get tempted in the heat of the moment."

I'm curious if it doesn't bother you--just a little--that TIM and the director of the scenes you shot for TIM actually exploited--for the company's own benefit--what led to your downfall. Or are you still friends with those good people?

http://www.treasureislandblog.com/news/release/liam-coles-overload/

Nikia said...

Hi Dean,
I'm sorry to hear about your experience. You are one of the best actors that I've had the experience to watch. The first project that I've seen you in was "The Shark" at Men at Play. I've been a fan ever since. For the studios to be close minded and choose not to do their homework is ridiculous. You've taken a lot of steps to practice safe sex (along with getting tested) and they didn't even take that into consideration. It's their loss and I would rather support actors who do take safe sex seriously and get tested verses the ones who never been tested at all and practice BB. It's been great watching your films and hopefully it won't be the last. Hopefully there will be a studio who has common sense and will hire you and other actors who are not only passionate about their work but also passionately about working safely.

Ty said...

Thank you for 13 wonderful years. I will miss you, but you'll always be in my dreams.

Ty said...

Thank you for 13 wonderful years. I will miss you, but you'll always be in my dreams.

002_Illya said...

Hi Dean.
You will really quit the present job.
I felt so sad.
When I read about your decision.
But if you decided so, it will be the best for you.
I pray for the success of your new carrier.
By the way, what should I do to prevent me from losing sight of your news?

I reviewed "Raspberry Reich," a few years ago.
If I did not, I never thought to look for you and could not have the interest in the adult industry.
The encounter with the person is a mysterious thing.

Anonymous said...

Dean σ αγαπω παρα πολύ! Καλα κανεις και παιρνεις προφυλαξεις παντα! Σε θελω γερο! μη στεναχωριεσαι για τίποτα! Ομορφε μου καταφερες και βγηκες ζωντανος ύστερα απο 13 χρόνια πορνο! Είσαι πανέξυπνος και τα είπες πολύ σωστα! Είναι απλα υποκριτες αυτοι στα στούντιο! Σε αγαπω παρα πολύ και δεν αξίζει να χαλιεσαι αν σε κραζουν! Ζηλευουν τν ομορφια και τν προσωπικότητα σου! Παλικαρι μου ομορφο αχ και να σουν δικος μου! <3

Tonino said...

Finally, an individual leaves the sex industry with sanity and health intact. Sadly, you are the exception.

A.J. said...

Dean,

I support and love you and if you ever get to the Baltimore/DC area, you've got a bud and a place to hang out.

Peace, AJ

Anonymous said...

Why not film & release your own content?

G B said...

Hey Dean, It was such a pleasure to meet randomly my idol (ie YOU) today! You didn't see me in my best day though...Hope I ll have the opp to make it up!

Looking forward to see you again

All the best
G B

Damien said...

Whatever your next venture, please do not stop writing here.

You are eloquent, interesting and clearly intelligent.

Keep writing.

Anonymous said...

Dean,

You are a beautiful man and will always be a superstar. In all of your glorious 13 years, you have never given a bad performance. Every scene (and I've watched them all), you are fresh, passionate, charismatic, beautiful, as you were when you started. You are one of the gay porn immortals, whom are very few in number. You are classic whose appeal will never wither.

You have been treated horribly by an industry for which you've been dedicated. Your fans will always and love and adore you. I am sure, as you embark upon a new path, you will be success.

Dean, you are unforgettable and you will always be one of the most handsome and sexy men who walked the earth. More importantly, your inner beauty shines. One day, I hope to meet you and to thank you for 13 years of enjoyment. You will always be in my heart.

Don

Anonymous said...

Hi Dean: Its believe but its true, you leave a píece of your life and heart saying to us good bye I will miss you but your creative way to express your sexuality and sex fantasies still remain in our minds. Keep safe and good luck. Jose.

Anonymous said...

Hi Dean - sad you are retiring and good luck in your next venture (by the way have you considered doing work out/fitness video work - I would love to know what you do to keep that body in such amazing shape and I am sure I am not the only one!

Anonymous said...

Hi Dean - sad you are retiring and good luck in your next venture (by the way have you considered doing work out/fitness video work - I would love to know what you do to keep that body in such amazing shape and I am sure I am not the only one!

Anonymous said...

Hi Dean - sad you are retiring and good luck in your next venture (by the way have you considered doing work out/fitness video work - I would love to know what you do to keep that body in such amazing shape and I am sure I am not the only one!

Anonymous said...

Hi Dean - sad you are retiring and good luck in your next venture (by the way have you considered doing work out/fitness video work - I would love to know what you do to keep that body in such amazing shape and I am sure I am not the only one!

sam wallace said...

hey sexy boy..i don't think your really say goodbye..

LeNair Xavier said...

As usual, I'm going to be the one who tell the truth that needs to be said.

Dean, for you to be in the industry for 13 years, and be oblivious to the hypocrisy towards HIV and condom use says more about you than it does about the industry. I was in the industry for only 3 years (2005 -2008), and became aware of it quite quickly. It's why after leaving I wrote my poetry series about the porn industry entitled "The Industry", which included a poem addressing HIV hypocrisy entitled, "The HIVE".

So where were you?

Most likely, so self-involved as the stereotypical porn actor that you turned a blind eye to anything that didn't concern you directly. Even when it's the most obvious truth affecting someone who should be considered your fellow man.

And I know of what I speak on this firsthand. For I have addressed many issues in the porn industry over the years with many porn actors privately agreeing with my stance. But when I come under public attack by studios and blogs like The Sword,...all I hear are the sounds of crickets.

With all that said, STILL, I hope this has been a wake up call for you about ALL of the studios you have been submissive to over the years. For it's better late than never that you come to that realization.

Xersex said...

Dear Dean, you're such a example for a lot of people! You're worthy of deepest esteem not only for your sex appeal and beauty, but even more for your intelligence and kindness! Love you so much. I wish you the best for whatever you'll do in your life. In my blog I dedicated the month of July for your birthday

http://menforxersex.blogspot.it/search/label/Dean%20Monroe

and when I recognize you on tumblr I can't do anything but reblog your beloved pic on my http://menforxersex.tumblr.com/

let me say: Thanks God there's a Dean Monroe on Earth!

Hugs and kisses by an italian admirer!!!

Anonymous said...

Hey Dean Take care and I wish you many more adventures - both challenging and fun - in your life... X

Anonymous said...

Dean,

Best of luck to you and I wish you well. I am a huge fan of your movies.

I am glad that you are leaving on your own terms.

Anonymous said...

Dear Dean,
It was very sad to read about the reaction of the studios. Therefore you have a lots of fans loving you. We will love you nevermind what happens. We support you with all of our hearts! Please do not stop managing the blog. Tell us about your new challenges and successes on other fields of life. I keep my fingers crossed for you dear Dean!

Brad@Calgary said...

Glad to see you are leaving an industry that uses people up on YOUR terms.

I've enjoyed reading your blog and hope there will still be updates as you start the next adventure in life that awaits you.

Anonymous said...

Hey Dean,

your experience makes us sad. But you know when one door closes, another opens. You are a man of principles, stay the way you are. We love you so much! Alexander & Mats from Berlin/Germany

Leslie Menges said...


FUCK what people think. That's never stopped you before. I wish I was there to lovingly bitch slap you as your friend. We gay men in our 40's, "the bears" are not dead yet and we love you and your brilliant talent. Start your own company. Be another Chris Ward for fuck's sake and produce fisting videos for us bears. Who gives a rat's ass. Just don't stop now. If you do, then Arpad Miklos and all those beautiful men who have taken their own lives will have died in vain. Who gives a shit if you may or may not have HIV. They are working on the vaccine even as we speak. Don't let people get to you. You never have before, don't start now. You're better than that and you of all people know that. There is a large market of older gay men out there and we have more money than the younger guys and we still love you. Hold your head high and be proud my brother, look who YOU are.

Your Friend
Les Menges
Austin, TX

Anonymous said...

Dean this is just absurd, don't worry it will probably just go away, carry on regardless those people will eat heir words. You can move mountains and look for other film companies even in Europe or elsewhere. You can do it, just try and be creative and things will happen . You are much too special. You are an icon and a lovely man too. This too shall pass
Your long standing friend Charles

musicman said...

hi dean i love your work for many years and your atitude for your fans. i remember my debut of gay life and your are my really first crush love for pornostar, lol yes is true im really sorry for my bad english i hope you stay open your blog for your fans.... in french tu sera toujours le premier dans mon coeur pour mon debut de vie dans le monde gay. thanks for all and good luck for all your project of life.

Stew said...

Hey Dean,

Sorry to hear you're leaving gay porn, but congratulations on 13 years on the top of your game, looking amazing, happy and healthy. You're sexy as F***, and hopefully we'll see more of you doing other things ;-)

After the way some gay porn stars have gone downhill, I admire how you've held your head up and kept it together.

Necro said...

I am so sorry of what happened to you Dean. You were, well, you still are my favorite porn star, as much for your style, your looks than your personality and fights, it's hard to impose yourself and your principles, work so hard and stick to them to show the good example about protection, your retirement is a big loss as much to your fans than the business. I hope you will rise again, who knows, though I do hope that even if you retire for good you will let us know how you are doing, we love you Dean, take care.

Anonymous said...

Dean, I've been a fan of yours for many, many years. Your Blackballed movie is the best porn I've ever seen. I always knew the day would come that you would quit the porn business. I had hoped you'd find a career in music or film. Eventually you will find the next chapter in your life. I will love you forever. Howard in Memphis

Graham Stokes said...

I'm sorry to hear you're leaving porn because I've always considered you to be, y'know, perfection. I hope you have the best of luck in your future endeavors, and I hope you keep your Twitter and/or this blog so your fans can still support you!!

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Anonymous said...

Go out with a bang !
You are the sexiest bottom in the business !

So jealous of all your sexy scenes, lucky guy...
You've had some wonderful action.
Enjoy the rest of your career.

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